New Year’s Intentions

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Let’s be honest. New Year’s Resolutions stink.

They are a guilt trip in waiting.

So, let’s call these New Year’s Intentions.

The good news? Most, if not all, are promises you can actually keep.

  1. Spend less time on projects or cleaning and more time playing with your kids. Trust us. They don’t care if the house is perfectly clean but they’ll remember spending time with you.
  2. Stop “comparenting.” You do you. Don’t let what other people think of your parenting skills bring you down. Your awesome kids didn’t get that way by themselves so you may actually be pretty good at this fatherhood thing.
  3. Take a deep breath when stuff gets crazy. Then let it out slowly and keep your cool.
  4. Kick the butts… or any other unhealthy habit that might be taking years from your life. You’re going to want to watch them grow up and give you grandkids.
  5. Buy less stuff. Rather, invest in more experiences/vacations/time with your family. The best present is to BE present.
  6. Love the mother of your children…or (for some of you divorced dads) at the very least don’t badmouth her in front of them.
  7. Floss your teeth. Ok, so that one may be tough. 😉 But modeling healthy behavior will help them learn from watching you.
  8. Love being a Dad. It isn’t always a picnic but the potential payoff is something hard to even put into words.

Now that you’ve got your “intentions” for the New Year. Don’t forget to follow these five tips from David Mizne of They are the best way to see if you can actually stick to the plan.

  1. Set realistic goals. Know your limitations and give yourself a shot at success.
  2. Break those goals up into smaller ones. It doesn’t have to happen all at once.
  3. Buddy up. Share your goals with a friend and then give them a free pass to hold you accountable.
  4. Make a recovery plan. When that guilt trip hits because you’ve been dropping the ball, don’t beat yourself up over it. But don’t let yourself off the hook either. Just start a new streak.
  5. Speaking of starting. Do that. Today. Day One doesn’t have to be January 1… or even have a one in it.


Be Known

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My Dad – 1956

It’s around this time of year that being a father takes on a deeper meaning for me and it has nothing to do with the holidays. My father was born in November and each year on his birthday, I remember that another year has passed since he died in 2008. He was only 67 years old.

The thing I remember most is how little I knew about him.

I still recall his retirement party and asking him to recount each job he’d held since he started working. I finally wanted to know more about him as a person. I don’t know why it took me so long to take an active interest in his life – who he was as a young man, what his dreams had been and future dreams were, who his friends were and to hear tales about how he grew up. Those types of conversations were ones I’d never considered starting.

Of course, I knew what he had done for a living. I knew what his role in the household was. But I had no idea who he was. We’d never had the type of relationship, by no real fault of his, where those types of talks would happen naturally. He had tried a few times, when I was an unbearably rebellious pre-teen, to spend time with me golfing or fishing. It wasn’t easy for him.  I was the youngest of five, with siblings all within six years of age, and I’m sure his hands were pretty full.  I just wasn’t interested or was too preoccupied…and at that age I still hadn’t grasped how finite our time here really is.  And by the time I had matured enough and made the conscious decision to purposefully learn more about him as an individual, rather than just a Dad, he was gone.

That’s a regret I carry with me every day.

But it’s also a motivating factor on how I parent my daughters. I want to be known.

Being approachable is one of the five core traits we encourage fathers to implement in their daily parenting through Daddy Daughter Time’s D.A.D.U.P program. As fathers, we are the first men our daughters will know and see as an example of who to date/marry. The more my daughters know about me, the more yours know about you, the better.

Nobody’s perfect and daughters knowing that about their fathers can be an incredibly positive thing. How do we deal with our faults, errors, and struggles? What are our goals? What is the code by which we live our lives and make our decisions? Those are the heavy hitters. On the lighter side…What were we like as kids? What do we find funny or do for fun?

The sad fact is that I can’t answer most of those questions about my father and I won’t ever get the chance. But I hope my girls never have to face that same fact. I plan to be as approachable as I can and let them know that while I’m their father first, I’m available as more than just their Dad. I’m a person and hopefully someone who they will want to know more about.

I encourage you to open up and share your memories, good and bad, with your daughters. Share your outlook on life, your goals for the future,  what makes you…you. Don’t only be known as a provider or a disciplinarian. Be known for the man you are.


5 Things Every Dad Should Do…Every Week

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It’s time to DADUP with these five things we encourage you to include in your parenting every week (if not every day.) They are easy to do…and easy to forget to do. So remember to DADUP and be involved with your daughter(s).

D is for Dine. Want to know why you’ve heard for decades that eating together around the table is good for your family? Because it’s fact. They’ve done the research. (Short story: It lowers the risks of obesity, substance abuse, eating disorders, and even increases the chance of graduating from high school.) The bad news is that the frequency in which families are doing this is declining. We know. You’re busy. But if you can squeeze in at least one family meal a week, it’s a start. Oh, and NO electronics. This is anti-screen time.

A is for Applaud. OK, you don’t literally have to clap your hands here. Maybe we could use the word affirmation? Basically, send her positive reinforcement for her good behavior, accomplishments at school, stellar sticker skills…whatever. A father’s praise is like gold  glitter to a young daughter.

D is for Discuss. A recent survey stated that only 4.1% of teenage girls in America feel that they can approach their fathers and discuss a serious problem. That’s not a typo. That’s four point one percent. If you aren’t talking with her now – one on one (that’s key) – she won’t feel she can approach you when it really matters. Carve out 15 minutes with just her and show interest in who she is and what she’s talking about (even if it’s Justin Beiber).

U is for Unwind. Daddy Daughter Time is all about spending time together doing fun stuff. Just as important? Chill time. Literally. Do something that requires very little effort or something that helps you relax. Include her. Whether it’s a walk in the park or just catching a (kid) flick on Netflix, sometimes just being in the same place while you both just chill can bring you closer together.

P is for Participate. The opposite of unwinding. Get up off the couch or away from the laptop and dive into her world. Sure, you’ll be at her soccer game or band concert… but what about when she’s playing with her toys or doing homework? This is your chance to be a kid again. I mean, you didn’t really want to grow up anyways, right?


Active and involved fathering isn’t all that tough. Use these reminders and DADUP!

Have you checked out our D.A.D.U.P. program? It’s a monthly (and sometimes more often) reminder for Dads to help them remain active and involved in their daughters’ lives. The #dadvice we give out at each event is based on 5 traits: Dependability. Approachability. Devotion. Understanding. Patience. You can learn more about it here.

Dad’s Guide to Traveling With Kids (And No Spouse)!

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So, you’d like to travel across the country with young children…without your spouse? What kind of Dad would be foolhardy enough to take on such a trip?

Well, I did that this past summer with my two daughters – Grace, 7, and Daphne, who was nearly 1 at the time. We flew from Grand Rapids, Michigan to San Diego, California…and we all made it back alive!

The following traveler’s guide, 5 tips and a mandatory packing list, should be read in its entirety. I don’t want you to get the wrong idea from my first suggestion which is…



Tip#1…. You are fully rested. I entered this adventure, (that’s what I call things other people call hassles), knowing that it would be a long day. I’m a patient man and I knew that it would require an extra reserve of that patience to deal with TSA check-ins, car rentals, and general travel pains while corralling an extremely mobile baby and short attention-spanned first grader. But I somehow forgot that I also had to work a full day before leaving that late afternoon. So, I still had to wake up early that morning. Do yourself a favor. Make sure you have time to fully rest. My day was 21 hours start to finish and I’m pretty sure I didn’t catch up on sleep until three days later.

Tip#2… You make lists. Then make a checklist for your lists. And then check those checklists. You get the idea. Your brain is going to be focused on how to keep the little humans alive and safe. Having a checklist for clothing, medical, food, and other necessaries means you don’t have to spend time thinking about whether you packed/have something while your little ones are wandering onto the tarmac. Thankfully, my wife is the queen of checklists. So mine were made out before she left.

Tip#3… You are well versed in the pace of life with kids. Sure, it’s easier to pop over to the store, friend’s house, wherever, when you’ve got a partner to watch the kids. When you’re flying solo with them, you need to schedule in buffer time. Lots of it. Planning to be somewhere way early means you’ll probably show up just in time. Maybe. (Read: The Pace of Life: Boy, Was I Wrong…(Sort Of)).

Tip#4… You are okay with screentime. Normally, I hate screen time for the kids. It’s something we avoid in our house if we can. But if you’re going to be in a plane for hours on end and there’s no other way to burn that energy off, fire up the iPad! Technology is your friend! Oh, and remember to download/find games that they can do without wifi (unless you like paying extra.)

Tip#5… You prep your unpaid volunteers. By “unpaid volunteers” I mean any of your children old enough to know how to help without causing more messes to solve. Sure, I told Grace we were going to have a great time. I also told her she would have to help me when it came to taking care of the baby. Fortunately, I won the “kid lotto” and was blessed with a more than willing volunteer who loves to help. Just make sure to give them a heads up so they don’t give you the stinkeye when they are told they have to help change a stinky diaper.

Mandatory Packing List

You’re instinct will tell you to overpack. But more stuff = more stress and more to carry. So, y’know, don’t do that. Here’s a list of essentials.

  1. Ziploc bags. Three words: poop, vomit, baby food. Ziploc bags are the quickest solution when you need to separate the messes from the rest when you don’t have a trash can handy.

    The sweet snooze of victory.

  2. Snacks. This is a no brainer but don’t ever think you’ll have enough. I ran out with 2 hours to go. Thankfully, the flight attendants had all sorts of goodies for Grace (and Daphne had finally fallen asleep.)
  3. The “lovey.” Does your daughter have a favorite blanket or stuffed animal? Go to Amazon and buy another one. That backup (we have two “foxies” for Daphne) is vital in case one ever gets dirty, damaged, or lost. Other small comfort items from home can make a trip less stressful for the kids, too.
  4. First Aid Kit. Don’t forget this! Baby Tylenol, Dramamine, Band-Aids. You never know and you don’t want to pay what the airport wants to charge for that stuff.
  5. Extras and Backups – I know I said to not overpack. But if you’re going to bring extra stuff… go with diapers, wipes, pull-ups, and three or more changes of clothes for when your kids ruin the ones they are in.


  • Did you know that on most airlines you can gate-check your stroller at no additional cost?  Well before boarding time, go to the front desk and ask for a stroller tag so that you are ready to go. Invest in a travel stroller, or an umbrella stroller.  We just purchased the 3Dtrek Convenience Stroller. Iit has many of the conveniences of a full size stroller, but folds up easy like an umbrella stroller.
  • If you are going to be traveling with breast milk or formula, be sure to check and print out the TSA regulations for “Traveling with Children”  

Grand Rapids Mayor Proclaims July 18 ‘Father Daughter Day’

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Grand Rapids Mayor Rosalynn Bliss has proclaimed July 18, 2017, and every July 18 henceforth, as “Father Daughter Day” in Grand Rapids. Citing the benefits an active and involved father, Mayor Bliss designated the day a time for all fathers to spend time with their daughters.

We are hosting a special Daddy Daughter Time Play Day event at the Grand Rapids Children’s Museum on Tuesday, July 18 from 6-8 p.m. The event will include admission to the museum, free food and drink, puppet shows from Kevin Kammeraad, prince and princess characters, face painting, and more. Pre-registration is requested.

“I encourage all of our citizens to join me in making this a wonderful community celebration of family,” Bliss stated in the proclamation.

Jana Hoglund, Daddy Daughter Time’s Vice President, elaborated on the focus of the father/daughter relationship. “Research has shown that teen pregnancy rates, suicide, and drug use is reduced while positive body image, test scores, and graduation rates go up when a father is actively involved in his daughter’s life” Hoglund said. “These are just a few of the reasons we do what we do.”

Thanks to support from Daddy Daughter Time’s title sponsor BISSELL, admission to the event will be a low $10 per person and is open to all fathers and daughters in West Michigan to attend.

This and all Daddy Daughter Time events are free to members of the organization. Memberships offer one event every month, at-home activities, giveaways, and more for $99 per year for one daughter and $129  per year for dads with more than one daughter making it an incredibly affordable option. Previous events have included hay rides, snow tubing, horseback rides, hair braiding events, and more throughout the year.

DDT Book Review: ‘You’ll Always Be Enough’

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Most involved Dads know what their kids’ favorite book is…it’s the one they want read to them over and over.

But when my daughter read “You’ll Always Be Enough” by herself and then insisted that she read it to me…I knew it must be a winner. She was right. Great book. (And I have to say I was impressed by how close she came to actually sounding out the word silhouette by herself.)

Teaching your daughter about positive self body image and showing her how to find her purpose can be tricky but author Laura Keuhl pens an inviting and subdued story that deals with those heady topics. Just as important, the whimsical illustrations by Piere d’Arterie complement the lyrical text. It’s an entertaining read that lends itself to a pattern and rhythm your daughter will enjoy.

After reading it for the second time, I asked Grace (who is 7 years old) what she thought. Here’s what she had to say.

“I liked everything about it,” she said. “At first the animals didn’t want to be what they were but then they saw that it was good.”

(Insert great opportunity to talk to your daughter about her own self image and point out her positive traits.)

“I really liked the last part because all of the stuffed animals in the little girls bed were the ones in the book,” she added. (Another opportunity to talk to her by using the stuffed animals in her room as characters.)

See? Entertaining and chock full of ways to open that line of communication with your girl(s). It gets better. 10% of net profits from the book’s sales go directly to organizations working with kids. It’s totally DDT recommended. Here’s a link for you to get a copy for your family.


Time to Pony Up

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I could tell you that after my daughter’s first day of horse camp that I was not on all fours with a pink feather boa being used as reins to lead me around her play room…but of course that wouldn’t be true. It was some quality Daddy Daughter Time. She gave me a crash course on how to navigate a “horse” around and I remembered why I really appreciate the thick padding under the carpet.

Peanut showing off his moves at Karin’s Horse Connection

While it may have been a spur of the moment decision (see what I did there?) to take her to this camp over Spring Break, it was an easy choice on where to go. Karin’s Horse Connection was the location of our DDT Derby and they didn’t waste any time getting the campers up and riding… which they did every day of Own-A-Horse-Camp.

But the experience my daughter received was much more than pony rides. She learned about grooming, the time and investment it takes to own a horse, mucking the stalls, and more in this hands-on camp that truly gives those interested in horses a true look at the work that goes in to all of that fun.

I “interviewed” Grace after each day. Here’s what we learned.

Day One:  As previously mentioned, Grace learned the basics parts of a horse and how to make it go where you want it to go. More importantly, how to make it stop. Also, barn kittens. There were a handful of them there and it was pretty much a tie between them and riding a horse for a highlight of the first day.

Day Two: Horses like to eat… a lot. Grace told me that you have to stop them from trying to nibble at everything they see and that “takes a lot of muscles.” Barn Kitten Update: A couple were sold/given away. There are only 3 left.

Day Three: Brush, brush, ribbit?  If you think having a daughter means owning numerous hairbrushes, you should try owning a horse. Grace explained and drew pictures of all of the different tools she used to groom the horses. Curry combs, dandy brushes, and more….and they have to be used in a certain order. Grace loves styling hair so this was a big day for her. Also, I learned that you use a hoofpick to clean a horse’s frog. Don’t know where a horse’s frog is? You should check out the summer camp sessions and find out.

Day Four: Alert! There is only one kitten left. The pleas to take it home have graduated from subtle to repetitive. In today’s interview, I asked Grace if she was cleaning out the stables. (“It’s mucking the stalls, Dad.”) When I followed up to learn if she’d had to pick up any “horse apples,” she laughed and said “Oh yeah. We’ve got a bucket full of them every day.” Then a small swelling of pride in me knowing that my girl’s not afraid to get her hands dirty.

Day Five: Today Grace learned that horses can be used for many purposes…including therapy. Peanut, a miniature therapy horse at the farm, was on his way to the Kroc Center for an appearance. There was a packet of small quizzes and coloring sheets completed, more riding, chores, snacks…and then the certificate and ribbon presentations for completing the course. Final kitten update: There’s still one there if you’re interested. ?

Last thoughts: When I first heard the words “horse camp,” I was wondering if it would just be a week full of riding.

Thankfully, Karin’s Horse Connection’s Own-A-Horse Camp is much more than that. It really did show our daughter how much time and work goes into owning a horse. They did the chores, put in the time, and even learned a few vaulting moves. (That’s basically acrobatic gymnastics while riding a horse. I know, crazy right?)

She’s already asked to do it again this summer. You should join us! Here’s a link to their Summer Camp sessions.



VIDEO: You Can Do That – The Songwriter

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“Sing out loud, sing out strong, … Make it simple, to last your whole life long.”

And like the song says…”Don’t worry if it’s good enough for anyone else to hear.”

But if you think your daughter can not only carry a tune, but build it from scratch, this episode of “You Can Do That” is for her.

We regularly feature videos from Cincinnati-based musician and videographer Mae Klingler.  Klingler’s mantra: You can’t do anything you want to do. But you can do more than you think you can. And there’s something you’re uniquely wired and created to do.

We showcase her series as it follows women who are doing just that, in hopes that the girls who are watching will know and believe deeply that they’re made for something special. Here are some previous episodes:  The Pop Lady, the TV News AnchorThe Artist, The PaleontologistThe Dialect Coach, and The Choreographer.

This time Mae turns the camera on herself and gives you a behind the scenes look at what it really is to be a professional songwriter. Take a look.

VIDEO: You Can Do That – The Choreographer

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If you’ve got kids, you’ve probably heard them say…”Daddy, watch this!”

When my 6 year old says that, it’s usually because she’s putting on a dance show and has some sweet new moves she wants to show off. (Dance parties at our house are always a good (exhausting) time and never last as long as she wants them to.)

If your daughter is always planning out shows to perform on the “dance floor,” she may want to take a look at this episode of “You Can Do That.” She can view how her physical expressions set to that beat in her head can actually be a career.

Each month we feature a video from Cincinnati-based musician and videographer Mae Klingler.  Klingler’s mantra: You can’t do anything you want to do. But you can do more than you think you can. And there’s something you’re uniquely wired and created to do.

We feature her series that follows women who are doing just that, in hopes that the girls who are watching will know and believe deeply that they’re made for something special. Here are some previous episodes:  The Pop Lady, the TV News AnchorThe Artist, The Paleontologist, and The Dialect Coach.

This time Mae talks with choreographer Rachel Perin. It’s a behind the scenes look at what it really looks like to be what your daughter may want to grow up to do as her life long career.


Girls Can! Crate

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 Daddy Daughter Time is proud to announce its partnership with Girls Can! Crate. We are all about giving Dads plenty of options when it comes to spending time with their daughters and this monthly service is an incredibly effective way to show your girl(s) examples of how women have helped shape the world.

And it is fun!

Grace and I got a kit to play around with and she loved it! One of our favorite activities were the story cubes game where we constructed and then rolled three large dice covered in pictures. We then imagined a story from beginning to end using whatever showed up on the dice. Good times!

Every month, subscribers receive a kit that showcases an example of a fearless female role model to help show your daughter that she can be and do anything! In the kit, you’ll find an Activity Book with two or three activities related to that month’s female role model’s field, some high quality props, and STEAM activities to help stimulate her sense of discovery. You’ll get the goods on role models including Marie Curie, Bessie Coleman, Irena Sendler, Florence Nightingale, Patsy Mink, Malala, and more.

You won’t find any makeup or glitter. These boxes don’t reinforce gender stereotypes…but rather blow them up. Young girls need to see what they can be and Girls Can! Crates do the trick. Here’s an excerpt from their website: 

“Did you know that when Bessie Coleman was told she couldn’t become a pilot in America, she taught herself French, sailed across the ocean, and became the first American to earn an International Pilot’s License? Or that Patsy Mink was rejected from 20 medical schools because she was female, so she became a congresswoman and wrote Title IX to end gender discrimination in educational programs? How amazing is that?!”

It’s that type of inspiration these kits can provide. You can order a month to month plan or save money by ordering a 3, 6, or 12 month plan.

IMPORTANT: If you decide to purchase these kits, you can also help out Daddy Daughter Time! When you check out at, enter the code DADDYDAUGHTERTIME (all one word) at checkout and they will donate $4 for each subscription to us. We’ll take that money and spend it on more events for you and your girls to attend. Win/win.

Please share this with any parent you know that may enjoy these types of monthly kits. We can’t say enough good things about them. 🙂