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JAY CRANK

  • Who you are and what do you do for a living?

My name is Jay Crank and I am an eye doctor who has a private practice in Grand Rapids on the Southeast side of town.

  • What is your family dynamic?

I have a wife of 24 years and 2 daughters who are 21 and 18.

  • What has been the biggest challenge of being a Dad?

There are many challenges of being a Dad.  My biggest challenge was to let my kids fail.  It is easy to do everything for your kid, the hard part is watching them doing something wrong.  For example, letting them fail with homework, sports, relationships, work.  Of course I will always be there for them, but the only way they are going to learn is through their mistakes and failures.  And what I have noticed, when they do learn this has built up their confidence and self esteem to launch them into adulthood.

  • What has been fatherhood’s biggest reward?

My biggest reward is seeing my girls maturing into loving, compassionate, confident young ladies.  Taking the things that were taught when they were younger and seeing them develop that into their adult years.  Also seeing my two daughters relationship develop into best friends.

 

  • What is the most memorable Dad moment you’ve had? Positive or negative – what moment of fatherhood stands out to you?

Seeing my oldest daughter protect her younger sister from a bully in school.  The message was sent. Don’t mess with the Crank girls. 🙂

 

  • How do you balance your work/family life?

Being a business owner has allowed me to attend most of the kids’ activities.  This was a top priority in my life and looking back I am very grateful that I did not miss those moments.

  • What “Dadvice” would you give a father with daughters?

The best advice for raising daughters is to know when to just listen to them.  Let them be girls and always let them know you will always be there for them.  What has helped me with my relationship with my daughters was being able to say I was sorry when I was wrong.  Know that you are not perfect and will make mistakes and have the courage to apologize when you do.  Also, let them fail.  We don’t need any more entitled kids.