They are a guilt trip in waiting.
So, let’s call these New Year’s Intentions.
The good news? Most, if not all, are promises you can actually keep.
- Spend less time on projects or cleaning and more time playing with your kids. Trust us. They don’t care if the house is perfectly clean but they’ll remember spending time with you.
- Stop “comparenting.” You do you. Don’t let what other people think of your parenting skills bring you down. Your awesome kids didn’t get that way by themselves so you may actually be pretty good at this fatherhood thing.
- Take a deep breath when stuff gets crazy. Then let it out slowly and keep your cool.
- Kick the butts… or any other unhealthy habit that might be taking years from your life. You’re going to want to watch them grow up and give you grandkids.
- Buy less stuff. Rather, invest in more experiences/vacations/time with your family. The best present is to BE present.
- Love the mother of your children…or (for some of you divorced dads) at the very least don’t badmouth her in front of them.
- Floss your teeth. Ok, so that one may be tough. 😉 But modeling healthy behavior will help them learn from watching you.
- Love being a Dad. It isn’t always a picnic but the potential payoff is something hard to even put into words.
Now that you’ve got your “intentions” for the New Year. Don’t forget to follow these five tips from David Mizne of 15five.com. They are the best way to see if you can actually stick to the plan.
- Set realistic goals. Know your limitations and give yourself a shot at success.
- Break those goals up into smaller ones. It doesn’t have to happen all at once.
- Buddy up. Share your goals with a friend and then give them a free pass to hold you accountable.
- Make a recovery plan. When that guilt trip hits because you’ve been dropping the ball, don’t beat yourself up over it. But don’t let yourself off the hook either. Just start a new streak.
- Speaking of starting. Do that. Today. Day One doesn’t have to be January 1… or even have a one in it.